Resources Available

Ben and I have had two really great resources through our infertility journey: a book called Hannah's Hope, and a CD recording of a Focus on the Family broadcast about infertility.  I think both express a great deal of our hearts and minds.

If any of you who are close to us have any interest in reading or listening, we will be more than happy to lend our copies or buy you your own.  We know that there's often lots of questions, or lots of discomfort when it comes to discussing this journey, or even walking it with us.  But I think these two things are able to express SO much about this journey that I just felt so validated listening and reading - seeing or hearing my own emotions there on paper (or on CD).  Particularly, the book has, at the end of each chapter, a section called "Burden Bearers" designed specifically for those who know a loved one experiencing infertility.  But, the whole book is just great.

Anyhow - enough about that.  But the resources are available if you want!  Just let me know!

Baby Steps (Pardon the Pun)

So, in line with a couple of years of not having any inclination that we would have ever been in this place, the feeling is fresh yet again.

Several weeks ago, Ben & I took a long focused weekend to pray and fast about the next steps in our infertility journey.  We asked four couples near and dear to us to come alongside us and each took one day to bathe us in prayer.  Right around the same time, I got two very unrelated and just as unexpected referrals to talk to friends/family of friends via email about their adoption experiences.  Both of these couples adopted very recently, and both through the same Christian agency in the Big City that I've mentioned before, which is about two hours away.  After this focused weekend, neither Ben nor I had any magnificent revelations.  However, we did both feel a very strong tug to start looking into adoption.  We put on hold any plans to look into a Big City fertility center and instead explore this nebulous and intimidating thing called adoption, and in particular, this adoption agency.

We requested information from this agency, read through it carefully, and decided that we wanted to take their series of classes, which are required of anyone going through their agency.  We were hungry for more information, and found out they are running the classes in two Fri-Sat sessions in a smaller city in June.  This is a great alternative to their normal Tuesdays from 6-9 in the Big City.  We communicated our desire to attend, and were told we would have to have an initial consultation before being allowed to.  We were already going to be heading down to Big City for our anniversary weekend, and I called to see if there was any way we could meet with someone the Friday we were coming down (a mere 3 days from that phone call), and miraculously, it worked out.

It was, easily, one of the most interesting 1.5 hours of my life.  The first part was our case worker asking us LOTS of questions.  Then, she walked us through every single step and piece of paper involved in getting ready to put our match letter into their book and books in pregnancy centers around the Big City. Wow.  So. Much. Information.  Anyhow - the moral of that story is that we walked away feeling a little overwhelmed and knowing we had a lot to think about.  We signed and sent our check for the June classes, which will be on June 10-11 and 24-25.  We look forward to absorbing more, and delving deeper into this world.

As we move forward, we vulnerably ask for your prayers for wisdom.  For discernment.  For clarity.  We want this to be God's story - not ours.

Day Seven: Every New Day

Here's my final offering in my series of seven songs that touch my heart, convict my soul, or speak to my feelings so well that I want to pretend like I wrote them....

So, Ben is Canadian.  Which makes sense as to why he loves Five Iron Frenzy so much.  He spent a lot of his youth going, with his brothers, to ska shows with these guys, The Supertones, etc.  Anyway, when I was trying to impress Ben I invested a lot of energy in learning some of their lyrics.  A few songs actually caught me - and this was by far my favorite.  You can listen here, which is great because they happened to use the live version from their very last concert.  The end is so full of emotion - it's just awesome.

When I was young, the smallest trick of light,
Could catch my eye,
Then life was new and every new day,

I thought that I could fly.

I believed in what I hoped for,

And I hoped for things unseen,

I had wings and dreams could soar,

I just don't feel like flying anymore.

When the stars threw down their spears,

Watered Heaven with their tears,

Before words were spoken,

Before eternity.

Dear Father, I need you,

Your strength my heart to mend.

I want to fly higher,

Every new day again.

When I was small, the furthest I could reach,

Was not so high,

Then I thought the world was so much smaller,

Feeling that I could fly.

Through distant deeps and skies,

Behind infinity,

Below the face of Heaven,

He stoops to create me.

Dear Father, I need you,

Your strength my heart to mend.

I want to fly higher,

Every new day again.

Man versus himself.

Man versus machine.

Man versus the world.

Mankind versus me.

The struggles go on,

The wisdom I lack,

The burdens keep pilling

Up on my back.

So hard to breathe,

To take the next step.

The mountain is high,

I wait in the depths.

Yearning for grace,

And hoping for peace.

Dear God...

Increase.

Healing hands of God have mercy on our unclean souls once again.

Jesus Christ, light of the world burning bright within our hearts forever.

Freedom means love without condition,

without a beginning or an end.

Here's my heart, let it be forever Your's,
Only You can make every new day seem so new
(Bolded for my own emphasis)


AMEN!

Day Six: Worlds Apart

Okay, so if Third Day is legendary, I have no idea how to describe Jars of Clay...  Here's a song that just plain brings me to my knees.  You can listen here.

I am the only one to blame for this
Somehow it all ends up the same

Soaring on the wings of selfish pride

I flew too high and like Icarus I collide

With a world I try so hard to leave behind

To rid myself of all but love

to give and die

To turn away and not become

Another nail to pierce the skin of one who loves

more deeply than the oceans,

more abundant than the tears

Of a world embracing every heartache

Can I be the one to sacrifice

Or grip the spear and watch the blood and water flow

To love you - take my world apart

To need you - I am on my knees

To love you - take my world apart

To need you - broken on my knees

All said and done I stand alone

Amongst remains of a life I should not own

It takes all I am to believe

In the mercy that covers me

Did you really have to die for me?

All I am for all you are

Because what I need and what I believe are worlds apart

[Additional lyrics:]

I look beyond the empty cross

forgetting what my life has cost

and wipe away the crimson stains

and dull the nails that still remain

More and more I need you now,

I owe you more each passing hour

the battle between grace and pride

I gave up not so long ago

So steal my heart and take the pain

and wash the feet and cleanse my pride

take the selfish, take the weak,

and all the things I cannot hide

take the beauty, take my tears

the sin-soaked heart and make it yours

take my world all apart

take it now, take it now

and serve the ones that I despise

speak the words I can't deny

watch the world I used to love

fall to dust and thrown away

I look beyond the empty cross

forgetting what my life has cost

so wipe away the crimson stains

and dull the nails that still remain

so steal my heart and take the pain

take the selfish, take the weak

and all the things I cannot hide

take the beauty, take my tears

take my world apart, take my world apart

I pray, I pray, I pray

take my world apart

Day Five: Grace and Love

I became a huge fan of Kutless many years ago, when I loved rock Christian music.  I enjoyed lots of their music...until I found this song (a gem amongst hard rock) and fell in LOVE with it.  Of course, they later came into their own with worship music (go figure...).  You can listen here.

Many things in life are hard for me
Many things can pull us down 

I don't understand why I do what I do 

How could I take my eyes off you 

After all You've done for me 

And after all You've done for me 

It's by Your grace and love I am saved 

It's by Your grace and love You've forgiven me, hey 

And by that love and grace, I'm amazed 

It's by Your grace and love I am free 

I am free 

And it's by grace and love that I am free 

I'll live with you eternally 

I thank you Lord that I am free 

I thank you Lord for loving me 

I thank you Lord for dying upon the tree of Calvary 

I thank you Lord for loving me 

I thank you Lord for dying for me 

Because it's by grace and love I am saved 

It's by Your grace and love You've forgiven me, hey 

And by that love and grace, I'm amazed 

It's by Your grace and love I am free 

I am free 

Many things in life are hard for me 

Byt my grace and love You've forgiven me 

And by grace and love we are free

Day Four: I Need You to Love Me

I discovered Barlow Girl several years ago, and have spent considerable time belting these particular lyrics.  You can listen here.

Why, why are You still here with me 
Didn't You see what I've done? 

In my shame I want to run and hide myself 

But it's here I see the truth 

I don't deserve You 

[Chorus:]

But I need You to love me, and I 

I won't keep my heart from You this time 

And I'll stop this pretending that I can 

Somehow deserve what I already have 

I need You to love me 

I, I have wasted so much time 

Pushing You away from me 

I just never saw how You could cherish me 

'Cause You're a God who has all things 

And still You want me 

Your love makes me forget what I have been 

Your love makes me see who I really am 

Your love makes me forget what I have been

Day Three: When the Rain Comes

Third Day is basically legend when it comes to Christian music, so here's my favorite.  You can listen here.

When the rain comes it seems that everyone has
gone away

When the night falls you wonder if you shouldn't

find someplace

To run and hide

Escape the pain

But hiding's such a lonely thing to do

I can't stop the rain

From falling down on you again

I can't stop the rain 

But I will hold you 'til it goes away

When the rain comes

you blame it on the things that

you have done

When the storm fades 

you know that rain must fall

on everyone

Rest awhile

it'll be alright

No one loves you like I do

When the rain comes

I will hold you